You can experiment to find out what you CAN wear!
First, Let your ears heal. If you have extreme sensitivities, check with your doctor first.
Always clean new earring posts/earwires with rubbing alcohol. Then you can try out earrings made with the different types of quality metals: sterling, 14K gold filled (or 14K gold), and, if necessary, argentium silver. Wear each one for a day to see if your ears still react to the metal. (At the FIRST sign of irritation, take the earrings OFF! If you think you have an infection, be sure to check with your doctor.)
You can also try dipping an irritating earwire in clear fingernail polish. Be sure to let them dry thoroughly before you put them in your ears!
Once you find what works for you, you can
* have a jewelry artist replace the earwires of your favorite earrings with earwires that work, or even
* order a special pair of earwires from which you can hang
your earring dangles!
For step by step instructions and some additional information, you can check out my blog on this topic. If you'd like me to help you with the experimentation, you can convo me through my Etsy shop. I'd be happy to help!